--Ayushi Mal
"The moment of surrender is not when life is over. It's when it begins."
The moment
we let go of the urge to control anything, is the moment we attain the real
freedom, that’s what I came across lately. May be because it is easier to do as
there lies no responsibility or may be surrendering helps to open up a space
and be at peace which would facilitate in making decision that will be for our
better good. I know it is not that sound to apply it in each and every
scenario, but worth it. We always look for extremes when we can choose from the
moderate as well. We always drew the line between black and white and often
forget there is something which lies in between that is grey. We always had a
prenotion of the idea that attainment of something will make us feel good and
that force us to cling onto the outcome but I feel it is far from reality. As
once we get it, our whole perception regarding that change. We may savor the
taste of mango before having it but who guarantees it will be the same once we
taste it.
Lately,
many things have been running in my head. And one of the toughest thing was
deciding the response. I know it is not necessary that what am I thinking and
acting upon will be validating in each situation. But when you don’t know the
destination neither the path, what you have is only a faded idea or a
hypothetical map to direct, it becomes quite difficult to decipher what is
really good for your soul as everything you see is mere a mirage of your own
superficial belief. I have witnessed people who got what they longed for and
still are unhappy with it and on the other hand some were deprived of what they
have been asked for but still are happy. So, my question is does happiness lies
in the attainment or fulfillment of our dreams and preferences or the state of
mind which we create independent of what we have been offered?
As humans
it is just so difficult to decide when our choices dangle upon logic or emotion
or both. At some point it becomes very difficult when we don’t have the
capability to carry the burden of the consequences of the act which we once
made. But just because it becomes difficult at some point doesn’t necessarily
mean we have opted for the wrong way, or if it seems easier for the time being
doesn’t guarantee we choose the right one either. So, my question is how to
know if you are on the right path? Or lets make it more easier, is it any such
way as a right one? Sometimes it could simply mean there is more work needed to
be done. Being an emotional being we are often subjugated by our own feelings
and emotions. We become slave to our own fleeting sentiments.
One more
thing I have witnessed is how hard you try to achieve something, you would
never get until you are actually aligned with it. There are things you get and people
you meet, just so effortlessly. And on the other side, you toil so hard to fit
into some sort of idea but still you don’t get what you have longed for. So,
what does it signify? Is there any higher means operating all these or mere
coincidences. We may deny fate or destiny and completely own our responses but isn’t
it the conditioning that is shaping our reality to some extend. Even the conditioning
is entirely dependent on the exposure we got. Even the control over our
thoughts, the responses or the awareness we possess, everything is learnt
through different means. So, are we fated enough to have those information which
may change our perception, mould our character that could change our destination?
Letting go
simply means to surrender. Surrendering knowing you have done your best and
letting go of the urge to control to be something your way. Just being at ease,
just being at love, just being at peace, believing what is meant for you will
find a way. Do your share but don’t cling to the result. Go with the flow. The
rest will fall into place. The fact is that although how hard we try there will
be something which will be missing out. And it is perfectly fine. Most of the
problem arises as we associate our happiness onto some result and even if we
succeed in achieving those results we hardly take a pause and reflect upon it and
cherish the journey which unfolds slowly and gradually as we intervene.
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